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|The Atlantic's The Gay Guide to Wedded Bliss, June 2013|
What if same-sex marriage does change marriage, but primarily for the better? For one thing, there is reason to think that, rather than making marriage more fragile, the boom of publicity around same-sex weddings could awaken among heterosexuals a new interest in the institution, at least for a time. But the larger change might be this: by providing a new model of how two people can live together equitably, same-sex marriage could help haul matrimony more fully into the 21st century.The part about same-sex weddings increasing interest in heterosexual marriage was just a fun perspective I hadn't considered before. The article talks about wedding officiants finding themselves more busy than they've been in a long time with both same-sex weddings and weddings of heterosexual people jealous of the fabulous events celebrating their same sex friends' couplings. The big point here, however, concerns marriages not weddings. Same-sex marriage offers "a new model of how two people can live together equitably". Drilling down to detail, Mundy says:
Same-sex spouses, who cannot divide their labor based on preexisting gender norms, must approach marriage differently than their heterosexual peers. From sex to fighting, from child-rearing to chores, they must hammer out every last detail of domestic life without falling back on assumptions about who will do what. In this regard, they provide an example that can be enlightening to all couples.Here we see where Mr. Whedon could have gone in his speech. In novelty marriages dotted around the landscape for decades, bold men and women have stepped out and determined that wives can work full-time and men can work less than that and can do laundry and shop for groceries. In the main, however, especially when children enter a marriage, many couples seem to have shrugged and decided that dad will work and mom will trade career for kiddie carpool et. al. at least for the 25 years it takes to raise a family. In a same-sex couple, the "default settings" are absent. Each party and the unit itself have to examine skills, leanings, priorities, personal preferences and make definite choices. Straight couples could have been doing that kind of joint work to big decisions, but it hasn't felt very mainstream to do so.
|The Atlantic's Masculine Mystique July/August 2013|
The central conflict of domestic life right now is not men versus women, mothers versus fathers. It is family versus money. Domestic life today is like one of those behind-the-scenes TV series about show business. The main narrative tension is: “How the hell are we going to make this happen?” There are tears and laughs and little intrigues, but in the end, it’s just a miracle that the show goes on, that everyone is fed and clothed and out the door each day.Marche goes on from this framework to explain his own personal experience with his marriage taking on the economy. He left a job at City College in New York when his wife was offered a dream job as editor in chief at Toronto Life magazine.
[I]n my marriage, the decision came down to brute economics: My wife was going to make double what I made. Good schools and good hospitals are free in Toronto. These are the reasons we moved. And if I were offered a job where I would make double what she does, we would move again. Gender politics has nothing to do with it.Marche's experience presents the economic reason why defaulting to gender roles feels like less of an option for many these days: it's "genderist" to think that the woman must always be the trailing spouse. This angle also plays up how we don't know the shelf life of certain role decisions we make. Some event might come along to upset the apple cart and make whatever we'd chosen for a season not be right for a new season.