Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Competent Grandparent

No.  That's physically impossible.  My oldest just turned 9.  Come on, readers.

Rather, I was musing about what it would be like to be a grandparent while we were on vacation earlier this month with our boys and my in-laws.  The boys grow so fast (and everyone assures me this trend only continues).  While hanging out with them in their still-preciously-young-boy state, I started to think about what their kids will be like.  Contemplating their kids, of course, raised the question of what I'll be like when they have kids.  

 I don't have as much to go on in this arena as some people.  I never had a grandfather.  My primary examples are my own father and my father-in-law, both of whom are terrific grandfathers, each in their own way.  I can only hope that I can be as generous of time and resources with my grandchildren as Ed and Dave are with mine.  My dad's specialty is playing with the boys - baseball, basketball, football, Uno, chess.  Dave does a great job celebrating their accomplishments and milestones.  Also because he shares their love of candy, he takes them to the candy store at every opportunity.  I hope that I'm as healthy as my boys' grandfathers are.  It would help if the boys would fall in love and get committed young, but I guess the first thing I don't want to be as a grandparent is pushy.

Other than that, this prospect does still feel awfully far off.  I don't have really specific visions.  I've got time to plan, though.  Plenty of time.


Anne H. said...

Charlie's and Teddy's children will be wonderful and you will love them to no end. You'll be a unique grandfather and enrich their lives with that sense of protection and anchoring in the world that extended family offers to children.

Lauren Jackson said...

Awwww. This is a beautiful reflection. My hardest transition as a parent so far was when Colin started kindergarten and I wasn't a parent of a preschooler anymore. I felt like I had been fired from a job I was really good at. You must feel like that, too. Congratulations to Teddy. He sure looks ready!