tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1045246505879536568.post7799053472390430353..comments2024-03-28T05:04:19.333-07:00Comments on Competent Parent: "You're a natural"JFohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14540721351105033478noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1045246505879536568.post-49701556733437800362010-04-28T16:38:09.557-07:002010-04-28T16:38:09.557-07:00Very good point, Azure. I think I've read thi...Very good point, Azure. I think I've read this advice in a couple of places, but I most remember it from the results of experiments done with school children described in Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman's <a href="http://competentparent.blogspot.com/2009/12/book-review-nurtureshock.html" rel="nofollow">Nurtureshock</a>. Kids who are praised for working hard on a test, choose harder tests the next time around; kids who are praised for how smart they are choose easier tests in the second round in order to preserve their "smart" status.JFohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14540721351105033478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1045246505879536568.post-51349023911919856722010-04-28T16:00:43.429-07:002010-04-28T16:00:43.429-07:00Great post.
Even if my kids are naturals, I do tr...Great post.<br /><br />Even if my kids are naturals, I do try to emphasize the effort part more than the talent part. If my daughter does well on her spelling test, I try to say "Great job! All that practicing paid off!" rather than "Great job! You're good at spelling!" <br /><br />We all can improve by putting in the effort whether or not we are naturals at the start.Azurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06476778039057168808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1045246505879536568.post-12752697442193409892010-04-22T07:29:07.158-07:002010-04-22T07:29:07.158-07:00What a great thing to spend some time deliberately...What a great thing to spend some time deliberately trying to work out who your boys are. I remember that yearly coop parent meeting when we focused on personality traits of our kids. It always felt so productive. And we can be the ones to tell them what their strengths are, too. It may not mean as much coming from a parent as from a pure stranger, but it's still valuable. <br /><br />Thanks for this post, a reminder for me as a parent and a wonderful set of insights into my nephews. (Trevor and Charlie have a lot in common, btw, as do Colin and Teddy. Is it birth order? Trevor didn't get any ham genes, though!)Lauren Jacksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04879879150717017574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1045246505879536568.post-14709029661534053702010-04-21T21:47:44.215-07:002010-04-21T21:47:44.215-07:00Fascinating — I loved reading this. Charlie knew a...Fascinating — I loved reading this. Charlie knew a fifth grader from when he was in kindergarten? That's amazing! Another thing about Charlie is that he's affectionate and rather the sensualist. <br /><br />I think Teddy's tantrums may spring from being quite a sensitive little guy and getting frustrated easily. I predict those will continue to fade as he gets more personal power and autonomy. Both of them have long attention spans, as you said of Charlie, and are very attuned to their surroundings — great traits to have.Anne H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14951398242908896715noreply@blogger.com