Wednesday, December 31, 2025

Books of 2025: Non-Fiction

It seems like each year, I tweak the categories slightly to fit in all of the titles I want people to know about.  The Books of the Year are coming - one non-fiction and one fiction standout above all the rest.

In the meantime, however, I read some interesting non-fiction this year.

Books of the Year: Non-Fiction

Blitz Spirit; Voices of Britain Living Through Crisis, 1939-1945, Becky Brown, 2020

I learned about this book from a profile of Tom Hanks that said he was so taken with the book that he looked up the editor/compiler Becky Brown to tell her it was one of the most fascinating things he'd ever read.  That endorsement piqued my interest.  In Blitz Spirit, Brown compiles excerpts in date order from ordinary British people who submitted their diaries to the Mass-Observation program during World War II.  Brown pored through the million-plus pages archived at Sheffield University and pulled representative paragraphs.  The reader sees a brief line identifying the person by a 4-digit ID number, gender, job, and location.  In these snippets, they discuss their experience of the war, which may have rather little to do with what's happening at the front.  Here, we mainly see the war's impact at home: blackout curtains, rationing, evacuees, perceived unfairness when people skirt the rules commonly adopted to serve the greater good.  The observations range from English stiff-upper-lip to philosophical to catty and funny.  In reading through them, I learned what to expect from certain diarists - a tone, a theme, a common complaint.  The entries run exactly as long as the war itself and describe its arc in everyday life.  I read through this book here and there as a palate cleanser between other books.  Deeply enjoyable and unique.  I couldn't find it in my local library system, which is most rare.  I bought a copy and will happily lend it.

Breakneck; China's Quest to Engineer the Future, Dan Wang, 2025

I heard about this book in conversation with my brother-in-law Graham.  He wasn't recommending it per se, but he mentioned things about how Wang covers China here that piqued my interest.  Wang sets out that China prizes engineers for government leadership positions while the US prizes lawyers.  Having emigrated from China with his parents to Canada as a child and then to Bucks County, Pennsylvania as a teen, the journalist and now Yale law professor Wang speaks from both professional and personal experience.  Early on, his distinction between the fast-building engineering state and the obstruction-happy lawyer state looks bad for the US of A.  As the book progresses, however, Wang identifies how the engineering state can miss as easily as hit.  When they wander beyond building bridges and cities, which they often do, into social engineering, their performance gets shakier.  One child policy and draconian Covid lockdowns, anyone?  Breakneck provides a fascinating contrast between the strengths and weaknesses of these two cultures.  While Wang's lens focuses on China in depth here, his references are solidly American.  Having lived and worked in both countries, he slides between his broader themes and his own family's experience deftly.  Since the decisions affect people, the effects on those closest to him surely represent many others' experience.  I feel like I understand our much larger counterpart power because of this book.  Such knowledge may come in handy when.. .you know.

The Art Thief; A True Story of Love, Crime, and a Dangerous Obsession, Michael Finkel, 2023

My friend Cassie Christopher recommended this book to me.  I took note because she mostly recommends novels.  Once I started reading, I saw that this non-fiction book moves with the energy and character development of a novel.  It's hard not to think about a movie adaptation while reading the book.  Although there is a movie called "Art Thief" with the lead actor delivering a horrible Boston accent, no movie has yet been released about the European art thief Stephane Breitwieser.  Michael Finkel spent ten years researching his book about this bold person whose addiction is stealing art from museums.  He involves his girlfriend in the heists as a lookout or even to carry pieces in her handbag.  Although Breitwieser fancied himself a gentleman crook who would steal to keep the pieces, not to sell them, his crimes did in fact harm the museums and their patrons.  Finkel manages the tension of the story perfectly.  I knew the thief must eventually get caught, but the author doles out the details in essentially chronological order, preserving the suspense.  In the end, it's a mind-blowing tale of potential lost, of skill devoted to selfish ends.

Honorable Mentions

Supercommunicators; How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection, Charles Duhigg, 2024

Weapons of Math Destruction; How Big Data Increases Inequality and Threatens Democracy, Cathy O'Neil, 2016


Tuesday, December 30, 2025

Books of 2025: Poetry

In 2025, I read a total of 35 books, five fewer than my record pace last year and seven ahead of my previous high in 2020.  (Sure, there are a few more days in the year, but we have family visiting, and I don't see getting to book 36.)

Even if I had read more than one book of poetry this year, I'm confident this title would have topped my list.

Book of the Year: Poetry

Flight Plan, M. Soledad Caballero, 2025

Paige and I got to attend the launch event at White Whale Bookstore for our friend Soledad's second poetry collection.  It was a buoyant night with three other poets "opening" for the main event.  This collection again touches themes established in her debut, I Was a Bell: migration (human and avian), family history, cancer, the blessings and challenges of middle age.  Caballero's poems ring with honesty and dark humor.  They often shake a fist at the sky and ask WTF?  One of the best single lines appears late in the book opening the poem "In Pennsylvania":

"Sometimes, there is more love in a book
than in the whole day."

The poem goes on to contemplate the bright shinyness we can get from a book when everything going on outside its covers is grim and foreboding.  It's fitting.  I felt that way about reading this book in this most awful year for our country and what we think of as civilization.

Monday, December 29, 2025

Books of 2025: Stay Aways

If you're new here, I share short book reviews about what I've read this year.  The pros can write about books that got published this year.  Mine might be from this year but are almost as likely to be from any other decade back to the 19th century.

Although it can feel like a downer, I like to start with books I disliked this year.  Some books elicit mild distaste.  Others strike me as so bad that I don't want anyone to read them.

Books of the Year: Stay Away

Creation Lake, Rachel Kushner, 2024

Having held a defensive position for a year or more against adding titles to my to-read list, I found myself backed into a corner.  I was low on novels on the list and out of new podcast episodes in my feeds.  Wanting something new to read and listen to, I turned to the Booker Prize shortlist.  The calculation here was: Find a title that the lit crit world agrees is decent, and it probably got enough press that my library led it as an audio book.  But winners are in higher demand than runners-up, so shortlisted audio books can be borrowed sooner.  That quest led me to Rachel Kushner's bizarre novel Creation Lake.  Here, we journey to a French commune and meet a lot of characters with stereotypically French names.  Our guide for the journey is an outsider, suspicious and suspected.  A kind of espionage element may explain why I had to work to understand the events of the first hundred pages (of 400+).  Based on past experience, I now pay attention when a book jacket blurb describes a book as "demanding."  In this case, no blurber specified that characteristic, but that word pinged around my head as I read.  In truth, I listened to it on audio far more than I read the hard copy I simultaneously borrowed.  Maybe that explains some of my confusion, too?  Divided attention on walks, the bus, cooking, etc.  Kushner writes well, although the book's suspenseful elements didn't hold my attention very well.  I just didn't really care what was going to happen.  The characters felt cartoonish, partly due to an unreliable narrator.   I didn't completely hate reading this, but I also see no reason to recommend it.


Shift: Managing Your Emotions So They Don't Manage You, Kross, Ethan, 2025

Sometimes, an author sounds so fascinating in an interview that I think their books must be good.  Sometimes, an academic writes a popular version of his scholarly work that turns into a best seller; then said academic writes a follow-up book.  Sometimes, it all happens in the same book.  And sometimes, that works.  But not this time.  Michigan professor Ethan Kross turned in a fascinating interview on Fresh Air or Hidden Brain.  He may have used up all of the interesting anecdotes and findings from Shift.  That left what remained pretty flat.  Even granting that there are some good anecdotes and one good (borrowed) framework - WOOP (Wish Outcome Obstacle Plan) - Kross never successfully grabbed my attention or convinced me that he was saying something newly useful about emotions.


Focusing, Eugene Gendlin, 1978

A book so bad I won't even tell you why or post a cover image.  You would never encounter it anyway.  I wish I hadn't. 

Tuesday, September 30, 2025

2025 Pirates Win Prediction Results

Confession time: On the last day of the Pirates season, I rooted for the Braves against them.  If that sounds counter to true fan behavior, I can grant that.  I had my reasons, though.  Well, reason.

See, in winning the penultimate game of the year, they had attained exactly my predicted number of wins.  I would win the family pool regardless, but I've never hit the number exactly.  In fact, this is only the third time a Forster has nailed it; Paige had the prior two.  This season, on the field, Pirate fans had to squint for to see silver linings.  That's all I'm doing - celebrating my accuracy despite it deriving from my team's futility.  I wish I'd been wrong in a certain direction.

Here's another one: On Memorial Day, the Pirates were on pace to win 60 games.  The final 2/3  of the season saw the departure of Derek Shelton and a long period of .500 baseball.  At the tail end, strategies more closely resembled spring training than a team trying to win.  They have a lot of young talent to evaluate, and many pitchers and position players got reps.  I feel oddly hopeful about 2026.



Wednesday, May 28, 2025

2025 Pirates Win Predictions - 1/3 Mark

Since the Pirates have played just over 1/3 of their games this season, it's a good time to check in with our family's win predictions.  Today, they stand at 21-36, which is good for the fourth-worst record in the majors.  And that's after winning 6 out of their last 10 games under new manager Donnie Kelly.

I tried to be as pessimistic as possible before the season without being a downer.  That put my projected win total below the rest of the family.  And yet, that turns out to be way too optimistic for this offensively-challenged squad.

To get to 71 wins, they'd have to go 50-55 the rest of the way after going 21-36 to date.  They have the pitching to do that.  The questions are: 

  • Will the injury bug stop biting them? 
  • Will they field the most productive hitters in the organization?
  • Can those hitters hit way better in the next four months than they have in the first two?





Thursday, May 15, 2025

Dispatch from the Empty Nest

Since I wondered what the empty nest was like before we arrived at one, I thought I would share some field observations.  On the first Sunday in January of this year, we officially transitioned from our "emptying nest" phase to the real deal.  

Our Timeline

  • May 2024: Charlie graduated from Oberlin College with a creative writing degree

  • June 2024: Teddy graduated from Allderdice High School
  • Summer to September: all 4 at home; Charlie umpiring little league and ushering at PNC Park for the Pirates; Teddy working at a growing 3-d printing company close to our neighborhood
  • End of September: Teddy enrolled at New England Institute of Technology in East Greenwich, RI for auto repair
  • November: a brief job search landed Charlie in an administrative role at Carnegie Mellon's Entertainment Technology Center
  • Also November: we took an "emptying nest" trip to the Bahamas, just the two of us.
  • Christmas holidays: Teddy home for three weeks, working and hanging out with his high school sweetheart, whom he's still dating.  All four of us in the house.
  • Sunday January 5, 2025: Charlie moves into a 1BR apartment a half-mile east of us the same day that Teddy returns to school (530 miles away) for the winter term.

All at once, after having everyone under one roof again for the holidays, my competent wife and I suddenly found ourselves the only permanent residents of our home.  The transition felt slow, slow, slow, FAST! One or more resident may, of course, return at some point.  For now, though, we've spent these months adjusting to the new normal.

Gratitude List

Two conditions make our transition to the empty nest easier than some.  I frame them in gratitude so that they (hopefully) don't come across as braggadocio.  Neither of these conditions is guaranteed as the nest empties.  First, we still like and love each other.  Like in the potentially-gross-out favorite person way.  That's huge.  Second, our sons are both happy and fulfilled in their lives.  We would support them if they weren't, but it's a great pleasure that they're both launching well.  They even protest a little when we pay for things before accepting our generosity and thanking us.  It's the sweetest.

Also, everyone's in relatively good health (especially since I'm off the crutches I relied on through two commencements last May and June).  We don't take this for granted either.

Expectation

I'm not sure what exactly I expected from this phase of life.  Maybe that the house would be too quiet or that the whole enterprise might feel bleak compared to family life.  I guess I felt vaguely anxious about it, not being the biggest fan of change in general. 

Reality

In reality, I notice the mundane more than the profound.  We get frequent touchpoints with Charlie since he lives close.  He still sits with us at church and comes over for Sunday supper.  One day, he helped me with a two-person yard project when Paige was busy.

Saving up Conversation Topics

With progeny of any age in the house, the family schedule put pressure on when we could actually discuss decisions or update each other on the people or events of the day.  Now, we find ourselves storing up things to talk about until it's a good time to talk.  We might cook together with the radio or a podcast on and then run down our list when we're seated, quietly, facing each other at the dinner table.  I literally keep a list on my phone and fight the urge to "download" from it at suboptimal times.

Cooking Less

We have practiced this adjustment before thanks to summer camp experiences (camper and staff) and then to Charlie going away to college.  Getting down to two mouths to feed, we can actually plan leftovers as a dinner again.  We can also cook certain meals without doubling the recipe.  Young men can, of course, eat on a plague-of-locusts level.  

When we make cookie dough, we bake maybe a half-dozen cookies, form the rest and freeze them.  Then we bake them off a half-dozen at a time in the toaster oven.  It's a kind of bliss.  Also, no one complains when dinner is vegetarian.

Purge Impulse

In the absence of dependents to see to, I find myself wanting to take care of the household.  In particular, I want any item we don't need anymore gone ASAP.  On Charlie's Sunday visits, we often have a little pile of things for him to take if he likes.  Since the pandemic, we've given a lot away using our neighborhood Buy Nothing group.  That trend continues.

Don't worry.  I'm not piling up the guys' personal effects from their bedrooms and carting them to Goodwill.  Just, you know, Marie Kondo-ing my own stuff.

Not Bored

I might have guessed that without school events or shopping emergencies or impromptu kitchen dance parties, "just" the two of us might get bored.  I was wrong.  For one thing, we have more freedom to say yes to things we like to do.  My competent wife sang in the choir for Holy Week, which involved several Lenten Thursday evenings at rehearsal.  I've attended many more Story Club story slams than I used to.  We can also say yes to spontaneous social opportunities more easily.

True confession: we went back to our kids' high school for the spring musical even though our guys don't qualify for the cast or crew anymore.  Who doesn't enjoy a high school musical. Don't answer that.

Sometimes, we take a walk before making dinner.  Pretty wild.

The fact that it's easier to take on projects around the house means I'm taking on more projects around the house.  Honestly, at stretches, I've wished for some of the quiet boredom I'd speculated about.

1:1 Ratio

One way in which we're now definitely spoiled: We never wait to use a bathroom.  There's one for each of us.  When we've had houseguests recently, I've found myself feeling suddenly curmudgeonly about having to share.

Conclusion

So that's it.  Nothing earth-shattering.  Mostly extremely present.  

I tried hard to welcome and see the good in each stage of our children's development into young men.  I'm trying to approach this new phase the same way.

Wednesday, March 26, 2025

2025 Pirates Win Predictions

Your correspondent failed to update after the family's initial predictions last year.  The Pirates won 76 games for the second year in a row.  That yielded a first for us: a three-way tie on prediction accuracy.  My pessimistic call of 73 wins and Paige's and Teddy's more optimistic 79 win prognostication were just 3 wins off the actual result.  Charlie's 90 fell charmingly over.

This year, two family members predict consistency at 76 wins again.  Charlie again believes this is the Pirates year.  I have seen nothing from the off season or spring training to get me excited.  (Except Jack Suwinski's return to hitting form.  We shall see how that lasts into the regular season.) 

If Tommy Pham is still with the team on Father's Day, I will revise my prediction down to 48 wins.